Hello again, it's been so long. The existence of this blog seems to slipped out of my mind for awhile, or is writing constantly not my thing?
Anyway, I'm here again, after 2 and a half year. Things have changed but few remain. The age old feeling still prevalent, strikes up rather nostalgic-ly when things seems to be happening again in the same old way as before.
3 years ago, I remember writing an incident inside a note during camp in Genting Highlands, and pastor would ask us to tear it off as an "act of forgiveness". I teared it off alright, but not sure if I did forgive. You see, forgiving a person only goes as far as forgiving the past, but when it happens again, the memories of the past will stirred up and the cycles goes on. Forgiving a person only goes as far as forgiving yourself not to hold any grudges of the past.
On the other hand, making peace is like shaking hands with your enemy, metaphorically. Each of you forgive other's shortcoming for greater good such as unity or peace. By pledging for greater good, the occurrence of conflict would seem minor and forgivable. A promise of mutual forgiving and strives to achieve unity together, no matter the difference.
In many cases dealing with problems head on is the most straightforward and simplest solution. But God made each of everyone with a unique attitude, and conflict between two is very often without a clear winner and loser, nor there's a clear way of doing things right or wrong. I struggled, pondered, forgive in many occasion, but letting people know my feelings isn't my strongest virtue nor is heeding people's advice her virtue. I'm a hot headed young adult with a clear moral value and on the other hand, a veteran in life. I'm stuck in the loop and living outside is my only gateway.
Fast forward to today. I felt a sense of peace and happiness, that I've made peace with her. It's not that there's any issues being settled, but throughout the years I've gained my ability to think and to be independent. Being in the final year of my university certainly makes me think about my future more, and the skills that I honed during uni has been proven for great use. I'm more ready than I was three years before, and moving out is one of the option for me. I'm not walking away from the trouble, but I'm making peace with the problem, knowing that avoiding conflict is better than having an argument every time for the sake of peace and harmony.
It would be unthinkable to think having conflict until the need to move out when I was young. But then I wasn't conscience and was brain washed by all the media. It was all positive thinking, positive but childish. And people change, it's not bad. It's called growing up.
But I hold no grudge towards what happened and what is going to, as I've made peace with this issue. I accepted the fact that this is what who we are, stubborn as it may, that lives has been so much more colourful for the difference in opinion, and it's your way of life. I wouldn't lock horn with you anymore, for my new life is waiting ahead of me. That this thing seems so trivial and even laughable, that a more important phase of life awaits you.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
FF
Had 2 bad experience with foreigners. Thus my title. Haha. This will be very biased but I'm trusting what I've seen with my own eyes so far.
First off is during the time I'm working with my friend. We're in charge of a fair in a mall and there's goodies to give out. One Indon maid approach me, looking nervous and symphathy. She told me there's a kid ground floor wants a goodie bag (we gives out shampoo) and she say he's very kesian and so on, and she said it with a sad looking facial expression. That was after I work, so I feel happy to finally call it a day, and I let my guard down. I buy all that she says and gave her the goodie bag. Only after that I recall, the kid could've just come and ask from us, or his/her parents. And I don't think any workers or any maids will have symphathy for such petty stuff. She cheated me, made up some imaginary story and I buy it. The goody bag doesn't mean anything to me, but the fact that she cheated me just to get something she wants angers me. That was the first.
The second just happened, a foreign black guy approached me and my gf, asking for money. He said he got his friend in KLIA and he had to go find them to get money, but he doesnt' have money to go there. He even said RM70 will be enough for him to take taxi to KLIA. Well, his story is kinda plausible and trustable, just that the way he ask for money. He asked "show me the money first" and ask specifically about how much we have, and requested my gf to take the money first. We thought it was the way foreigner deal with money, but soon after that my gf heard announcement saying to be wary of any strangers. Finger crossed that it's not him and will soon came back to me and return back the money. But he do left his contact, and I saw my number appear in his handphone when i miss call him back, i'll call him sooner, to ask for the money back. I don't do it because of the money, I just wanna prove myself wrong that he's not a conman and he's trustable. I really hoped so.
Speaking about conman, I'm being conned when I was form 5 or so..but the case is resolved and I got my revenge. More on that next time.
So what's the moral of the story? It's very hard to tell who's cheating you and who's not. At certain times when you're feeling happy and joyful, you'll let your guards down. That's exactly what happened to me
I came up with this few easy steps to do whenever you're confronted by (would-be) conman. Whether this proves to be useful or not, wait till I got chance to use it next time. But I pray that I'll never have to go through this again.
1)Have private discussion/ thoughts alone or with trusted friends. Conman usually appears desperate and make themself symphathy, and it affects your judgement.
2)Be tough. If the conman say stuff like "you don't trust me?" Then just say yes. It's their job to gain your trust, and your wisdom to judge it. Don't let anybody affect you.
3)Refer to higher authority. Find somebody of higher authority to come and assist you. Insist of doing so, because conman usually strikes when you're alone and he'll do anything to stop you getting your help. So do find somebody.
Out of the three steps the third one is the most important. A higher authority such as police, elder or even friends in this case can assist you greatly. Do be vigilant against strangers, especially foreigner.
First off is during the time I'm working with my friend. We're in charge of a fair in a mall and there's goodies to give out. One Indon maid approach me, looking nervous and symphathy. She told me there's a kid ground floor wants a goodie bag (we gives out shampoo) and she say he's very kesian and so on, and she said it with a sad looking facial expression. That was after I work, so I feel happy to finally call it a day, and I let my guard down. I buy all that she says and gave her the goodie bag. Only after that I recall, the kid could've just come and ask from us, or his/her parents. And I don't think any workers or any maids will have symphathy for such petty stuff. She cheated me, made up some imaginary story and I buy it. The goody bag doesn't mean anything to me, but the fact that she cheated me just to get something she wants angers me. That was the first.
The second just happened, a foreign black guy approached me and my gf, asking for money. He said he got his friend in KLIA and he had to go find them to get money, but he doesnt' have money to go there. He even said RM70 will be enough for him to take taxi to KLIA. Well, his story is kinda plausible and trustable, just that the way he ask for money. He asked "show me the money first" and ask specifically about how much we have, and requested my gf to take the money first. We thought it was the way foreigner deal with money, but soon after that my gf heard announcement saying to be wary of any strangers. Finger crossed that it's not him and will soon came back to me and return back the money. But he do left his contact, and I saw my number appear in his handphone when i miss call him back, i'll call him sooner, to ask for the money back. I don't do it because of the money, I just wanna prove myself wrong that he's not a conman and he's trustable. I really hoped so.
Speaking about conman, I'm being conned when I was form 5 or so..but the case is resolved and I got my revenge. More on that next time.
So what's the moral of the story? It's very hard to tell who's cheating you and who's not. At certain times when you're feeling happy and joyful, you'll let your guards down. That's exactly what happened to me
I came up with this few easy steps to do whenever you're confronted by (would-be) conman. Whether this proves to be useful or not, wait till I got chance to use it next time. But I pray that I'll never have to go through this again.
1)Have private discussion/ thoughts alone or with trusted friends. Conman usually appears desperate and make themself symphathy, and it affects your judgement.
2)Be tough. If the conman say stuff like "you don't trust me?" Then just say yes. It's their job to gain your trust, and your wisdom to judge it. Don't let anybody affect you.
3)Refer to higher authority. Find somebody of higher authority to come and assist you. Insist of doing so, because conman usually strikes when you're alone and he'll do anything to stop you getting your help. So do find somebody.
Out of the three steps the third one is the most important. A higher authority such as police, elder or even friends in this case can assist you greatly. Do be vigilant against strangers, especially foreigner.
Sunday, January 16, 2011
Saturday, January 1, 2011
New year resolution
It's the time again! where everybody will have their new year resolutions despite never achieving last years' resolution...anyway, here's mine:
1)Study first, aim for pointer above 3 this sem. And don't procastinate in studies.
2)Make HUGE progress in Android development.
3)Spend some time with God and reading bible.
4)Play futsal and improve my futsal skills!(Didnt play last month cuz injured my leg JUST before holiday)
5)Last bt not the least, enjoy my time at UPM and my time with my sweeetest ever gf ;)
1)Study first, aim for pointer above 3 this sem. And don't procastinate in studies.
2)Make HUGE progress in Android development.
3)Spend some time with God and reading bible.
4)Play futsal and improve my futsal skills!(Didnt play last month cuz injured my leg JUST before holiday)
5)Last bt not the least, enjoy my time at UPM and my time with my sweeetest ever gf ;)
Sunday, October 24, 2010
I've learnt a new word, "dogged"
dog·ged
- Having or showing tenacity and grim persistence
- success required dogged determination
The first time i encounter this word is in football. "dogged" defense mean tight and mean defense, usually defended with sheer determination of keeping the ball out, even if it means breaking down the game and make it ugly. I realised this term can be used in real life, too. To succeed, one must be dogged to do that thing well. And for most starters like me, things don't usually end up beautiful and the way I want. But I see the end product of it, it can be as gracefully as it seems, or it can accomplish what I wanted. Nobody will care about what you did in the process, it is what the product counts. It is putting the ball to the back of the net count. I believe with dogged determination, it can all turn out well. Just the way I hope it will.
Friday, October 15, 2010
Sunday, October 3, 2010
Ahh....Uni life
Well, this few months have been a nice one for me, one part of me finally get to do the things i've always wanted, one part of me finally get things started and going smoothly, and she remains the same, always wonderful, sweet, and never fail to cheer my heart up=)
One part of me finally get to do thgs I always wanted...that's playing futsal in uni! Yes I've been craving for futsal all this while, and though I'm nt a good footballer, but I just like playing futsal. It's like a not so tiring version of football. Heheh
Owh ohh, and also one more...I created my first Android app!!
Don't get me wrong tho, I'm still a Apple fan..just that I'm curious about programming stuff, it's so fun! *nerdy smile
Uni life is just getting better and better, and with you around, I'm enjoying ever minute of my life now.=)
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